Constant Criticism
- Turning grievances into personal character attacks.
- Blaming instead of expressing needs.
Chronic Defensiveness
- Meeting every concern with an excuse or counter-criticism.
- Refusing to take responsibility for relationship health.
The Conflict Cycle
Most couples aren’t lacking love.
They’re stuck in a cycle they don’t know how to stop.
Emotional Distance
- Living like roommates rather than intimate partners.
- Avoiding vulnerability or shared connection.
Stonewalling & Shutting Down
- Withdrawing from conversation during difficult moments.
- Building silent walls instead of bridges for resolution.
The Relationship Reset Strategy
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Identify the Pattern
Interrupt the Conflict
Stabilize the Relationship
Understand exactly why the same fight keeps happening—and what triggers it.
Learn what to do differently in the moment so arguments don’t spiral out of control.
Create new ways of communicating and reconnecting so the progress lasts.
MEET DERRICK J. HOARD
Helping Couples Break the Cycle of the Same Fight
I’m Derrick J. Hoard, LMFT, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in helping couples break recurring conflict patterns. Many of the couples I work with still love each other—but feel exhausted by the same argument happening over and over again.
My role is to help you understand what’s really driving the conflict, interrupt the pattern, and create a more stable way forward together.
Investment
Standard Session
$200 Flat Rate
Professional therapy sessions aimed at deconstructing negative interaction loops and establishing a healthier emotional base for your partnership.
I function as an out-of-network provider and offer monthly superbills. Covered by most out-of-network insurance plans. Most couples start with a free consultation.
The Relationship Intensive
$700 (Extended Care)
A comprehensive three-hour breakthrough session for couples in crisis needing rapid tools to stop escalation and restore safety in one day.
I function as an out-of-network provider and offer monthly superbills. Covered by most out-of-network insurance plans. Most couples start with a free consultation.
MY APPROACH
I provide a clinically grounded, safe environment for couples to deconstruct cycles and rebuild lasting intimacy.
Clinical Excellence
Evidence-based methodologies tailored for modern relationship dynamics.
Neutral Grounds
A confidential environment where both partners feel heard and supported.
Modern Care
Dynamic and results-focused sessions designed for effective resolution.
Sustainable Tools
Practical skills that ensure relationship health long after cycles are broken.
"We finally learned how to stop the downward spiral. Marriage counseling with Derrick didn't just improve our communication; it completely shifted how we hear each other."
— J.B. & S.R.
Stories of Restored Connection
Empowering couples to transition from exhausting conflict cycles to a foundation of secure partnership and mutual respect.
"The intensive reset was the turning point we desperately needed. After years of the same argument, we have tools that actually interrupt the pattern before it starts."
— T.L. & K.P.
"Derrick provided the neutral grounds we couldn't find on our own. For the first time in a decade, we feel like a team again rather than opponents."
— M.A. & D.W.
Derrick J. Hoard, LMFT
206-890-4008
derrick@stopthesamefight.com